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EKSTROM Pehr Fabian (Captain)

Male 1845 - 1938  (93 years)


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  1. 1.  EKSTROM Pehr Fabian (Captain) was born on 20 Jan 1845 in Örebro, Sweden; died on 29 Apr 1938 in Union Cemetery, Newport Twp., Towner, ND.

    Notes:

    Per started out as a stowaway at the age of 16 then, cabin boy on a
    ship and worked his way up the ladder until he was captain of his own
    ship. Per was a banker, owning his own bank in Litchfied, MN, then
    went bankrupt. He then hauled freight on a Dray line before his team
    was hit by a train. He survived. Per was Episcapalien, and enjoyed
    reading.

    Posted by George Freeman on Sun, 04 Jul
    1999, in response to Ekstrom, posted by Brian Freeman on Sun, 04 Jul
    1999

    Note: Pehr wasn’t a banker or own a bank. He was a real estate agent and sheriff in Litchfield, MN.

    Surname: Ekstrom

    from McHenry County Centennial Book:
    Capt. Pehr and Helena (Sauvrow) Ekstrom
    By Helen Chapman

    Capt. Pehr Ekstrom and Helena Sauvrow were born in Orebro, Sweden,
    Pehr in 1845 and Helena in 1850. With a group of their country men
    they came to Chicago. They made their way to Minnesota and were
    married in Saint Paul In 1872. They lived on a farm for a while, but
    finally sold this property and moved to Litchfield Minnesota where
    they remained and raised their family. During this time Pehr opened
    and operated an abstract office. Later he was the Sheriff of Meeker
    County. After this he was auditor and collector for several machine
    companies. At this time the West was opening up with the building of
    the Great Northern Railway. As the result of this expansion land
    became available. So he moved his family consisting of Karne, Anna,
    John and Mamie to Towner. Homesteads and claims of 160 acres were
    available for the processing. Mrs. Ekstrom, Anna and John each filed
    on claims west of Towner in the area north of Buffalo Lake. They were
    required to build a house or cabin and live on the land for one year,
    to "prove up' the claim and then they owned the property.

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    Getting a Jump on Life
    Appendix: Captain Peter Ekstrom’s Story

    Captain Ekstrom

    Reminiscences as told by Capt. Ekstrom to his daughter Mrs. I.B. Cook, when he was ninety years old.

    I was born in Erbro, Sweden on January 20, 1845. I was the second youngest in a large family and the only living member at present.
    My father Peter was wealthy, being interested in a line of freighters that visited the leading countries of the world at that time.
    When the boats would dock in the harbor, I would, in spite of the fact that I was a mere child, accompany him on his tour of inspection. While Father was transacting business, I would play on the decks and climb the riggings.
    It was at this time that I decided that as soon as I was old enough I would be a sailor.
    At fifteen I graduated from high school and had the opportunity of entering the university, but my only desire was to sail the seas. The first year I spent on a Boys’ Training Ship in Stockholm. At sixteen I had to return home to receive instructions fro Confirmation. This was compulsory as the law of the land was that every child at the age of sixteen must be confirmed.
    My parents pleaded with me to give up this notion of being a sailor but to no avail.
    I finally received permission and after obtaining my recommendations I started for Gottenborg. The trip was by coach over rough roads. In this coach were two Jewish priests (sic) and a corpulent woman beside who I sat. I arrived in Gottenborg late in the day, it was foggy and misty. I had an address to a boarding house for students. After wandering around for some time I asked a policeman for information, he directed me to the house. I rapped on the door and a middle-aged woman appeared. I introduced myself and handed her a letter. After she had read the letter she was very cordial and invited me in.
    I was very tired after my long ride. The next day I interviewed a Captain whose boat was ready to sail. After reading my recommendations he decided to accept me and ordered me to change my clothes and get to work. There was another lad who was so ill-behaved at home that his parents had sent him on this boat thinking it would tame him down a bit.
    The name of the first vessel I sailed was Julia. All the sailors occupied the same cabin. The bunks were crude and built one over the other. There was very little space to move about. Before we left we were given our rations which had to last for a certain length of time, also we received a tin plate, soup bowl, tin cup, fork and spoon. Our pocket knife had to be used as a substitute for a table knife.
    Our breakfast was black coffee, mush and hard tack; dinner was pea soup and supper was pea soup, salt pork, hard tack and black coffee. Thus was our daily diet except when we anchored at some port, then we received fresh meat, vegetables, fruit, etc. The boat had no facilities for keeping perishable foods on long trips.
    I experienced several ship wrecks. The first was in the North Sea. This was about Christmas time. For days a raging blizzard tossed the ship about, carried away the main mast also the forecastle. The boat was covered with ice and snow. The ropes which controlled the sails were also covered with ice. We took turns climbing the riggings and pounding the ice off the ropes. One sailor, an older man, was swept into the sea. When the storm subsided, the boat had drifted along the northern coast of Norway. A pilot and his twelve-year-old grandson came to our rescue. He was asked to pilot the boat to shore. We threw a rope to him and pulled him on board. The little lad took the pilot’s boat back to shore.
    The town was a fishermen’s village called Cleveland (This name was difficult for me to read so I guessed at it. It may not be correct. I copied this from my mother’s handwritten copy of this story.) Here we were treated very kindly by the people. That night was Christmas Eve. We spent it drying our clothes and retiring early. Our beds were made by scattering hay on the floor. We were given blankets; we laid down and were glad to rest. As I lay there I thought of the Christmas Festival which was taking place at my home. The lad who hired out on this boat was glad to go home and behave himself, but I was determined to carry on.
    The second ship wreck was off the Danish coast. As the tide went out we gathered our belongings and went ashore. We told the fisher folks they could have what they could salvage from the ship in exchange for food. This they gladly did saying, “It was the first time God had blessed them for two years.”
    I returned to Gottenborg and signed up with one of the largest, finest boats which would be ready to sail in about two or three days.
    I wrote mother telling her about my plans. Mother telegraphed Gottenborg asking me to wait that she was coming to see me. Before she arrived our boat had started out. Mother chartered a steamer and followed for some distance in hopes she could encourage me to come home. We watched the steamer from our dock thinking that tourists were out on a pleasure trip, little realizing my mother was on board.
    When I reached Australia a letter was waiting for me. The mail had gone over land. It required 128 days to make this voyage. Australia was a new country and alive with excitement over the finding of gold.
    On one of our stops at Bombay there was another boat called the Red Jacket. They challenged four other vessels in a race to Liverpool. The captain of our boat wished to enter the race but the Insurance Company objected. The prize was $2500. The vessels left Bombay before our vessel did, however our captain decided to try to best the other vessels. It required 122 days to make the trip. We won the race reaching Liverpool 48 hours before one vessel and four days before the second vessel. Crowds of people gave us a great welcome.
    I returned home after having spent 39 months sailing.
    The next boat I went aboard was the Elanor. We had a mixed cargo from Liverpool to Archangel. The ice has been reported out but as we entered the White Sea, the current brought back the ice. This was in the month of May. Our vessel was caught in the ice jam and crushed. We left our vessel hanging on the ice and started on foot to reach land. This was about four or five o’clock PM. We saw seven other vessels wrecked. We walked about one hundred miles and when we became tired, we would lie down on the ice to rest and then to go on again. Our food was pork and snow.
    We traveled for two days and one night this way. We thought we saw land, started again the next day and finally did see land at four PM. All we could see was sand and brush. The nearest town was Cola. As we were gazing for some sign of life, one of the boys saw some smoke in the distance.
    We traveled on until we reached a village inhabited by Finlaps, very small people about five feet or less tall. Their huts were made of drift wood and covered with seaweed. The large room was about twelve by sixteen feet with a rock fireplace in one end. It was very neat. They lived on fish, reindeer and barley bread. The milk from the reindeer was given to the children. A father and son took the Captain for Cola for supplies. The Captain wired Archangel and learned that crews on other vessels had perished.
    After this I attended school at Gottenborg and received my title as Captain but sailed as first mate. I was called home because of [economic] depression. I stayed home for one month and started out again. I left for Liverpool seeking work but the depression was general. Finally I left for New York. Here I found conditions worse as the Civil War was just over and commerce was at a standstill. My pal and I left for Chicago and from there we went to St. Paul. The farthest west the railroad had reached was St. Cloud.
    I liked the country and purchased two quarters of land from Col. Matteson. I paid between $180 and $200 for a yoke of oxen. I broke twelve acres of land and I raised a good crop of wheat but had to haul it two miles to market. The price I received was 52 cents a bushel. Flour cost five dollars per hundred. I was able to haul only thirty bushels on account of the bad roads.
    The grasshoppers destroyed the crops for the following three years and the fourth year a tornado destroyed everything. I finally sold the farm for $1500 cash and $3000 on time with interest at (this looked like 10% but it was very difficult for me to see). The farm was finally known as the Weard Farm.
    Mother and I were married in St. Paul on April 20, 1872. We lived on the farm for a couple of years then decided to move into town where I opened an Abstract and Real Estate Office. I was Sheriff of Meeker County and preferred to go along to get my man and I never failed to bring him back.
    After being Sheriff, I was Auditor and Collector for the following machine companies: Plano, John Deere and McCormick, at times having the eastern half of North Dakota as my territory. At this time my hearing began to fail and it was necessary for me to give up this type of work.
    In 1898 I came to Towner and have been here ever since, but for my sight and hearing I am in perfect health.
    There were many places of interest I visited while at sea. One [was] an island in the Mediterranean Sea off the Coast of France where the Count of Monte Cristo was held as prisoner. The Black Hole of India where so many British soldiers perished and a Church on the Spanish Coast of the Mediterranean where the Inquisition was practiced. In this church I saw the terrible means that were used in executing unfortunate victims. The stone steps were worn from people walking down to their awful death. In the chambers where they were sentenced were the huge chairs where the judges sat. When I saw the places of torture, it seemed the blood stains were still noticeable. I have seen the funeral biers on the shores of India. At one time I witnessed the execution of twelve Malay pirates by the Danish man of war. This put an end to piracy in this region and it was safe to travel between the peninsula and the East Indies.
    Well, I believe that is all I can recall now. A few years ago I could have related the things as they happened, even the dates on which they occurred.
    I have sailed around the world thirteen times and the only coast I haven’t seen is the Pacific coast of the United States. This was not open to travel.

    * * * * *


    Captain P. Ekstrom was born in Erbro / Orebro, Sweden, January 20, 1845. He came to the U.S. after the Civil War and located at Litchfield, Minnesota before the railroad reached there. He was one of the last pioneers of that section to pass away.
    On April 20, 1872, he was married to Helen Sandow / Helena Sauvrow. There were six children, two passed away in infancy. The remaining members are: Karin, Mrs. C.H. Gumelius; Anna, Mrs. I.B. Cook; Jon Ekstrom; Mamie, Mrs. Fred Hermanson of Seattle, Washington. The others all live at Towner, North Dakota. There were eighteen grandchildren, one Edna Karin Ekstrom passed away at the age of two. The remaining grandchildren are: Arvid Gumelius, Helen Hattie, Lytle, LeRoy and Pat Cook; Robert and Esther Hermanson and Aileen, Ruth and Verner Ekstrom.

    Died:
    Funeral services were held in the (sic) on May first with the Rev. Basil Dourthy of the Episcopal Church officiating. The following were present at his funeral: two daughters, his son, five grandsons, Arvid Gumelius, Verner Ekstrom, Lytle Cook from Hatton, North Dakota, LeRoy Cook from Hillsboro, North Dakota, and Irvin (Pat) Cook from Grand Forks, N. Dak., and a granddaughter, Hattie Cook, from Rugby, N. Dak.
    His daughter, Mrs. Fred Hermanson and children and Helen Cook from Seattle, Washington, were unable to attend. Aileen and Ruth Ekstrom from St. Paul were also unable to attend.

    Pehr married SAUVROW Helen on 20 Apr 1872 in St. Paul, Ramsey Co., MN. Helen was born on 10 Feb 1850 in Örebro, Sweden; died on 09 Jul 1928 in Union Cemetery, Newport Twp., Towner, ND. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

    Children:
    1. 2. EKSTROM Anna Sofia  Descendancy chart to this point was born on 28 May 1874 in Litchfield, MN; died on 06 Sep 1874.
    2. 3. EKSTROM Karin  Descendancy chart to this point was born on 15 May 1875 in Litchfield, MN; died in 1915.
    3. 4. EKSTROM Anna Sofia  Descendancy chart to this point was born on 29 Nov 1876 in Litchfield, MN; died on 12 Oct 1952 in Pierce, ND.
    4. 5. EKSTROM John William  Descendancy chart to this point was born on 19 Jun 1878 in Litchfield, MN; died in 1963 in Union Cemetery, Newport Twp., Towner, ND.
    5. 6. EKSTROM Mamie Louise  Descendancy chart to this point was born on 05 Jul 1880 in Litchfield, MN.
    6. 7. EKSTROM Verner  Descendancy chart to this point was born on 18 Jul 1881 in Litchfield, MN; died in Sep 1881.


Generation: 2

  1. 2.  EKSTROM Anna Sofia Descendancy chart to this point (1.Pehr1) was born on 28 May 1874 in Litchfield, MN; died on 06 Sep 1874.

  2. 3.  EKSTROM Karin Descendancy chart to this point (1.Pehr1) was born on 15 May 1875 in Litchfield, MN; died in 1915.

    Notes:

    from McHenry County Centennial Book:
    Capt. Pehr and Helena (Sauvrow) Ekstrom
    By Helen Chapman
    Karen Ekstrom married Henning Gumelius and they had one son, Carl
    Arvid born in August 1899.

    Karin married GUMELIOUS Carl Henning on 27 Jul 1898. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

    Children:
    1. 8. GUMELIOUS Carl Arvid  Descendancy chart to this point was born on 11 Aug 1899 in Towner, Mchenry Co., ND.

  3. 4.  EKSTROM Anna Sofia Descendancy chart to this point (1.Pehr1) was born on 29 Nov 1876 in Litchfield, MN; died on 12 Oct 1952 in Pierce, ND.

    Notes:

    from McHenry County Centennial Book:
    Capt. Pehr and Helena (Sauvrow) Ekstrom
    By Helen Chapman
    Anna taught in a school provided for the education of the children of
    the English ranchers who had settled on the banks of the Mouse River.
    Later she taught In Towner's first brick school house. This building
    was used until the red brick school was built in 1905. The original
    building was then used for apartments and was known as the Rosencrans
    Flats. Anna had some students who later made Towner proud. They were
    Alan Soule and the Strand boys, Olaf and Anton. In 1900 Anna married
    Irvin Cook who had come West from his parental home in Wabasha,
    Minnesota to work in construction along the new rail road. At that
    time it had reached Minot. He homesteaded and acquired other land
    which is the present Cook Ranch northwest of Towner. The Cooks had
    five children, Helen, Hattie, Lytie, Leroy and Pehr Irvin (Pat).

    Died:
    Burial: Union Cemetery, Towner, McHenry County, North Dakota, USA
    Memorial #: 23634910
    https://www.findagrave.com/memorial/23634910/anna-s.-cook

    Anna married COOK Irven B. on 14 Jun 1900. Irven (son of COOKE Garret Albertson and MACKEY Mary Stuart) was born on 03 Jul 1861 in MN; died on 01 Mar 1947 in Towner, Mchenry Co., ND. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

    Children:
    1. 9. COOK John J.  Descendancy chart to this point
    2. 10. COOK Helen Mary  Descendancy chart to this point was born on 28 May 1901 in Towner, Mchenry Co., ND; died on 03 Nov 1994 in Snohomish, Snohomish County, WA.
    3. 11. COOK Hattie Annette  Descendancy chart to this point was born on 06 Aug 1903 in Towner, Mchenry Co., ND; died on 27 Oct 2000 in Redmond, King Co., WA.
    4. 12. COOK Lytle Garrett  Descendancy chart to this point was born on 23 Mar 1905 in Towner, Mchenry Co., ND; died on 09 Nov 1980 in Rugby, Pierce Co., ND.
    5. 13. COOK LeRoy Arvid  Descendancy chart to this point was born on 23 Dec 1907 in Towner, Mchenry Co., ND; died on 20 Jul 2008 in Langley, Island Co., WA.
    6. 14. COOK Per (Pat) Irvin  Descendancy chart to this point was born on 25 Aug 1916 in Towner, Mchenry Co., ND; died on 08 Apr 1999 in Maalaea, Maui Co., Hawaii.

  4. 5.  EKSTROM John William Descendancy chart to this point (1.Pehr1) was born on 19 Jun 1878 in Litchfield, MN; died in 1963 in Union Cemetery, Newport Twp., Towner, ND.

    Notes:

    from McHenry County Centennial Book:
    Capt. Pehr and Helena (Sauvrow) Ekstrom
    By Helen Chapman
    John settled in Towner. He was in several businesses and always was a
    loyal supporter and promoter of the town. John married Nettie Haugen
    in 1912 they had three children, Aileen, Ruth and Verner.

    Died:
    died at the age of 85

    John married HAUGEN Nettie on 12 May 1912 in Fosston. Nettie (daughter of HAUGEN Jorgen and Haugen) Bestomore (Grandma) was born in 1883; died on 27 Jan 1975 in Union Cemetery, Newport Twp., Towner, ND. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

    Children:
    1. 15. EKSTROM Aileen Helen  Descendancy chart to this point was born on 27 Jun 1914; died on 08 Dec 2008 in Maplewood, MN.
    2. 16. EKSTROM Edna Karin  Descendancy chart to this point was born on 28 May 1916; died on 11 Feb 1918 in Union Cemetery, Newport Twp., Towner, ND.
    3. 17. EKSTROM Ruth Mamie  Descendancy chart to this point was born on 15 May 1919 in Towner, Mchenry Co., ND; died on 09 May 2003 in Mahtomedi, Washington Co., MN.
    4. 18. EKSTROM John Verner  Descendancy chart to this point was born on 01 Jul 1923 in Towner, Mchenry Co., ND; died about 1995 in Imperial Beach, San Diego Co., CA.

  5. 6.  EKSTROM Mamie Louise Descendancy chart to this point (1.Pehr1) was born on 05 Jul 1880 in Litchfield, MN.

    Notes:

    from McHenry County Centennial Book:
    Capt. Pehr and Helena (Sauvrow) Ekstrom
    By Helen Chapman
    Mamie Ekstrom taught school also and later acquired nurses training.
    She married Fred Herman in 1907 and they moved to White Earth, North
    Dakota where Fred operated a drug store. They had two children, a
    boy, Robert and a girl, Esther. They lived there until 1918 and then
    moved to Seattle, Washington.

    Mamie married HERMANSON Fred on 27 Jun 1907. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

    Children:
    1. 19. HERMANSON John Robert  Descendancy chart to this point
    2. 20. HERMANSON Esther Louise  Descendancy chart to this point was born on 30 Jul 1909.

  6. 7.  EKSTROM Verner Descendancy chart to this point (1.Pehr1) was born on 18 Jul 1881 in Litchfield, MN; died in Sep 1881.


Generation: 3

  1. 8.  GUMELIOUS Carl Arvid Descendancy chart to this point (3.Karin2, 1.Pehr1) was born on 11 Aug 1899 in Towner, Mchenry Co., ND.

    Notes:

    never married


  2. 9.  COOK John J. Descendancy chart to this point (4.Anna2, 1.Pehr1)

  3. 10.  COOK Helen Mary Descendancy chart to this point (4.Anna2, 1.Pehr1) was born on 28 May 1901 in Towner, Mchenry Co., ND; died on 03 Nov 1994 in Snohomish, Snohomish County, WA.

    Notes:

    2nd born child
    Helen was and Equestrian

    Died:
    Buried: Union Cemetery, Towner, ND.

    Helen married CHAPMAN William Manfred on 29 Aug 1955 in Seattle, King Co, WA. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]


  4. 11.  COOK Hattie Annette Descendancy chart to this point (4.Anna2, 1.Pehr1) was born on 06 Aug 1903 in Towner, Mchenry Co., ND; died on 27 Oct 2000 in Redmond, King Co., WA.

    Notes:

    3rd born child
    had 2 boys
    last lived in Redmond, WA

    Birth:
    Born on the farm outside Towner, ND

    Died:
    https://www.findagrave.com/memorial/69536675/hattie-a.-paulson
    BURIAL
    Persilla Watts Cemetery
    Rugby, Pierce County, North Dakota, USA
    MEMORIAL ID 69536675 · View Source

    Hattie married PAULSON Edwin Loyd before 13 Apr 1940. Edwin (son of PAULSON John A. and BOXRUD Helen Maria) was born on 16 Sep 1907 in New Rockford, Eddy Co., ND; died on 21 Aug 1990 in Rugby, Pierce Co., ND. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

    Children:
    1. 21. Living  Descendancy chart to this point
    2. 22. Living  Descendancy chart to this point

  5. 12.  COOK Lytle Garrett Descendancy chart to this point (4.Anna2, 1.Pehr1) was born on 23 Mar 1905 in Towner, Mchenry Co., ND; died on 09 Nov 1980 in Rugby, Pierce Co., ND.

    Notes:

    1st born child
    had 1 boy and 2 girls

    Died:
    Died due to complications form a stroke.
    Buried: Union Cemetery, Towner, ND.

    Lytle married EBER Florence Vera on 22 Nov 1947 in Minot, Ward Co., ND. Florence was born on 19 Apr 1927 in Glenburn, Renville Co., ND; died on 07 Jan 2009 in Chesapeake, VA. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

    Children:
    1. 23. COOK Beverly Ann  Descendancy chart to this point was born on 26 Aug 1948 in Minot, Ward Co., ND; died on 30 Jul 2005 in Bangor, ME.
    2. 24. Living  Descendancy chart to this point
    3. 25. COOK Irvin Lytle  Descendancy chart to this point was born on 27 Aug 1952 in Towner, Mchenry Co., ND; died on 30 Mar 1975 in Towner, Mchenry Co., ND.
    4. 26. Living  Descendancy chart to this point

  6. 13.  COOK LeRoy Arvid Descendancy chart to this point (4.Anna2, 1.Pehr1) was born on 23 Dec 1907 in Towner, Mchenry Co., ND; died on 20 Jul 2008 in Langley, Island Co., WA.

    Notes:

    4th born child

    Birth:
    23 DEC 1907/1908

    LeRoy married HALVERSON Sylvia Josephine on 20 May 1940. Sylvia (daughter of HALVERSON Mathius H. and JORDAHL Clara Josefine) was born on 20 Jul 1910 in Buxton, ND; died on 28 Jun 2003 in Langley, Island Co., WA. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

    Children:
    1. 27. Living  Descendancy chart to this point
    2. 28. Living  Descendancy chart to this point

  7. 14.  COOK Per (Pat) Irvin Descendancy chart to this point (4.Anna2, 1.Pehr1) was born on 25 Aug 1916 in Towner, Mchenry Co., ND; died on 08 Apr 1999 in Maalaea, Maui Co., Hawaii.

    Notes:

    5th born child
    Was an accomplished Bridge player

    Family/Spouse: Sue. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

    Family/Spouse: Dot. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

    Family/Spouse: LEIB Ella Laura. Ella (daughter of LEIB Arthur Edward and HOBBS Harriet Browning) was born on 19 Jun 1916 in Tacoma, Pierce Co., WA; died on 11 Sep 1987 in Wailuku, Maui Co., Hawaii. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

    Children:
    1. 29. Living  Descendancy chart to this point

  8. 15.  EKSTROM Aileen Helen Descendancy chart to this point (5.John2, 1.Pehr1) was born on 27 Jun 1914; died on 08 Dec 2008 in Maplewood, MN.

    Notes:

    Getting a Jump on Life: 90 Years of Flying in the Face of Obstacles, Overcoming Hardships and Making My Own Way

    Author's Statement

    I inherited a skydiving former-nurse from my mother. Aileen Fritch, who had gone to nursing school with my Mom and remained a close family friend, was always present in our lives. I remember being fascinated not only by her amazingly funny stories but by her attitutde toward life.
    She raised a son with cerebral palsy when the normal practice in the 1950s was to institutionalize such children. She had been abandoned by her husband, the baby's father. She worked as a single mom and continued working after she married and had two more children at a time when women usually stayed home and tended to their families. She worked as a nurse until she was eighty. These facts are a product of her attitude towared life but they don't capture what caught my attention about her.

    Was it that she always expected to come out ahead and on top no matter what life threw her way? No victim role or self-pity music for Aileen. Life wasn't what she endured; it was what she sought out and shaped according to her dreams and imagination. Engaging is a good word. Anyone who dealt with her would readily be engaged by her wit and intelligence. Above all, she seemed willing, eager and able to wrangle with life.

    Part of why I am writing this book is to define for myself how Aileen lives her life. What gives her such amazing resilience? Where does she get the ability to expand life and to shatter people's expectations? She lived her life with her eyes and mind wide open long before the women's movement cleared away obstacles for us. Of course, I also want to study how she lives as an older person in our society. At 93 she is part of a growing number of peope living longer and better. I want to see how she does it and prepare myself!

    Aileen and I have spent hours upon hours in interviews and discussions about her life and how I'm writing her story. Her articulate and witty delivery provides the right material for her book. I shaped, rearranged and clarified material, expanded dialogue, and made connections. But this is her story in her words. And what words! The chapters included her given an idea of who we are dealing with – not merely a feisty lady who lives her life on her own terms. What emerges from her story is also the journey of a soul. Underneath the fun and fascination of knowing Aileen, I always felt a strong soul connection. Her story slowly reveals what propels and supports her – a strong connection to God, her inner source.

    Chapter 1 - Jump

    I'm sure people are wondering why I would want to go skydiving for my 90th birthday. Probably when you finish reading my life story, you'll say "No wonder she wants to jump out of an airplane!"

    I've always felt life is an opportunity that has to be taken advantage of before it slips away. What's the term folks use today – proactive? As a kid when life got too quiet and ordinary, I always thought of something to shake things up. I don't know how much my attitude and efforts were appreciated by others around me, but life wasn't dull for too long if I had anything to do about it.

    Jumping from a plane turned out to be another way to inject some energy into this stage of my life. Growing old isn't a lof of fun in itself, is it? Why not see what will make it better and more interesting, what will bring new people into my life, and show others what can be done. In other words, get a jump on this business of life. When I saw 90 coming over thill, I figured I needed to do something fun and interesting. That's what I did. It was a great day.

    I'm doing it! I am in this plane and I'm really going to jump. I had better! The St. Paul Pioneer Press did a story on me and down there waiting for me to jump is a camera crew from the local CBS affiliate. I seemed to have caused quite a stir. I don't know why. I watched a lot of programs about skydiving and always thought it looked like fun. Definitely something I'd want to do. So here I am.

    The plane is circling around dropping other parachutists. I see all different looks on their faces as they head out the door. Most are eager and excited. Today's not the greatest day to be jumping. The weather is overcast and drizzly. But we're doing it anyway. It's almost my turn.

    I'm securly attached to Terry McCullough, my handsome, delightful and confidence-inspiring jumping partner. He's going to guide me through this crazy jump. He's also the owner of Skydive Twin Cities, based at the Wisconsin airport where we're doing the jump.

    When we met, I said, "Terry, I usually don't mention my age or have regrets about being the age I am. But this one time I wish I were 60 years younger."

    Terry has briefed me on what to expect and what happens when we jump out of the plane into thin air. I'm fascinated and eager to go. I've been wrapped, packed, zipped up, buckled in and attached. I'm getting antsy. I want to see what happens.

    My landing is going to be perfect. That's what I told everybody. I promised to do a better job than the senior Bush. No landing on my bottom for me! Once I land, we'll go to my church for a birthday party with all my family and friends.

    Who would have thought that a rascally farm kid from Towner, North Dakota, would be skidiving into the next phase of her life!

    What a jump!

    What a life!

    Chapter 2 – Family

    I was born on Wednesday, June 27, in 1914, between one and two in the afternoon. But that afternoon was the Ladies' Aid Society meeting day at church and my mother was supposed to be serving. My grandmother was quite upset that I had to be born exactly at that time. My poor mother told me that her mother-in-law had suggested, "Maybe you could come for a little while and help."

    Mrs. Shipman, the midwife, delivered me and all the children in the area. I was my mother's first. In all she had four, but Edna Karen, born two years after me, died from pneumonia at age two. When she died, my Aunt Anna, a teacher, told my parents, "Don't worry about Aileen Dying. Nothing's going to happen to her. Neither the devil nor the Lord wants her." I guess my character was already notorious at age four. My sister Ruth Mamie was four years younger and brother John Verner, nine. I was named Aileen Helen after my Swedish grandmother who raised birds.

    When I look back on my childhood and my family, I try to figure out who and what were the influences on my life. I'm not sure I can trace any direct effects except that several of my ancestors were strong-minded and individualistic. But, truthfully, I can't find anyone to blame for how I turned out.

    My father's mother – the one I named after and who raised birds – was from Stockholm, Sweden. Her mother (my great-grandmother) was a lady-in-waiting to the queen of Sweden, My grandmother, Aileen Helen, loved her birds. She learned how to raise them in Stockholm an brought the skill to America with her. For as long as I can remember, she raised her jubilee warblers in a room built onto a corner of the kitchen. It had special isinglass windows and a thermometer. The room had to be kept warm. The birds lived in beautiful wooden cages. She sold her canaries to customers in New York. Her warblers were guaranteed to sing and she made a lot of money from them. Letters came to her addressed "Dear Bird Lady." When the birds were laying eggs, we had to whisper in the kitchen. We were so excited to see the new birds when they were born, but we couldn't make any noise. She was very skillful and worked with them to make sure they sang. She hummed and sang to them when she was in their room to accustom the birds to singing. It was as if she were teaching in a school for birds. If one of them didn't sing loudly enough, she'd stand right next to the bird and talk to it. When they were ready, she would ship them to her customers by rail. It seemed from what I was told that the railroad men cared for the birds all along the way. They regarded it as a special privilege to watch out for her birds and make sure they were all right. She never had one returned because it didn't sing.

    My grandmother was fascinating to me. I remember she was always well-groomed and dressed like a lady – an elegant lady not usually seen in small towns. Her dresses were full of frilly things [Gibeau]. Her hair was braided and held in place with hairpins that glittered. She wore the braid like a crown and to me she looked like a queen. She also wore gorgeous hats that a cousin of hers in New York sent her. Once she got a hat with a stuffed white bird on it. Grandmother was furious that a bird had been killed to make a hat.

    Her husband, my grandfather, had sailed around the world twice as a ship's captain. Everyone addressed him as Captain Ekstrom. I don't know why my grandparents decided to homestead in North Dakota. Besides the farm they had, my grandfather also ran a dray line with horses. He never walked along the street, he tipped his hat to every lady he met. Unfortunately, Grandfather had poor eyesight. He was hit by a train – he didn't see it. They brought him home with a severe concussion and put him to bed. The doctor said he wouldn't last long. Everyone gathered around glumly waiting for his death. I was about eight years old and for Grandfather to get hurt was unimaginable to me. He was such an important part of our lives. He had taught us the names of all the stars and showed us how to use the sextant. We were all feeling sad and resigned as we sat together in the kitchen. Suddenly he burst through the door wrapped in a blanket with a lampshade on his head and another blanket over his arm. "Ladies," he announced, "I think I'm going to leave now." His head was a little off but he was up and walking and he did recover. Grandfather Ekstrom had given my grandmother yellow diamond earrings for their wedding. He had brought them back from a seafaring trip. She always wore the canary diamonds. They sparkled like the sun when she moved her head. When she died, he insisted that the earrings be left on her. We asked him why. "They belong to her," he said, "and I'll be able to find her in heaven because she'll be wearing them."

    My mother's family was from Norway. My mother, Nettie Haugen, came to America as an infant with her mother, father and two brothers. They settled in northern Minnesota near other family members who farmed. They were a close-knit group. Norwegian was their main language. The kids learned English at school but always spoke Norwegian at home. People said that in our town even the dogs barked in Norwegian.

    Mother married a Swede, John William Ekstrom. The name, shortened for Ekstrommer when my grandfather came through immigration, means "Strong Oak." They settled on a farm near the Canadian border in North Dakota. They were self-sufficient like all farmers before the turn of the last century. Mother made baby underwear out of men's old long johns. Home medicine was an art and a science practiced by the farm women. Mother had a book of household medicine, but went beyond it. Neighbors came to consult with her. She was always whipping up drinks, making mustard platers, or administering some cathartic treatment for illness. I remember that vanilla extract – expensive and hard to get – was the most precious item in the house. She was furious when she discovered that her sister-in-law's husband drank up one of two bottle she had purchased to have on hand.

    Our dairy farm was right outside of Towner, North Dakota, near Minot. Besides running our farm, my father operated the grain elevator in town and served as fire chief of our town' volunteer fire deparment for forty-five years.

    I remember that we had a wonderful shared phone line and I could listen in on conversations. That was great fun. Everyone on the phone line had their own special ring so I knew who was getting a call. I'd lifted the receiver very carefully so as not to make any noise. I found out a lot about people and life through the phone line.

    Our life on the farm was planned around the cows. We had to get back home in time to milk them. We had to get up early to feed them and stay around for calving season in the spring. We were a self-sufficient family. We bought sugar, flour and raisins. Everything else we raised and processed ourselves. We canned everything from the pig except its squeal. The pig's bladder we washed, blew up and used as a football – the original pigskin. All the farm kids played with pigskins.

    My family had large gardens and I helped with the gardening. I worked ouside most of the time. I was not an indoor person. Starting at age seven, my summer job was helping in the hayfields combining. The combine has two wheels and gathers up the hay. It's pulled across the field by a team of horses. My job was to drive the horses ahead which would raise the extended arm and pull in the hay. I loved haying season and working in the fields. I wore coveralls all the time. I never wanted to be a girl anyway. To me it was pitiful that every Saturday I had to wash my hair and have my hair put in rags so I looked nice for church on Sunday.

    My father's favorite summation of me what that I was the poorest possible advertisement for a dairy farm in the world – skinny with never an ounce of fat on me.

    I don't think we thought anything of the hard winters we had with snow several feet high and covering everything in sight. Although we didn't live too far from town, there'd be a days that we'd never leave the house except to go to the barn and tend the animals. Heavy ropes were strung from the house to the barns to guide us when we went out in snow storms when the snow was falling so thickly we couln't see a foot ahead.

    Winter was made more bearable because of Christmas and all the rituals around the holiday. On Christmas Eve my dad pulled out a huge flatbed and filled it with hay. He hitched up Molly and Sue, the horses, and put bells on their harnesses. Ten or more people – friends and family – settled onto the straw and we drove into town a mile a way to go caroling at friends' houses. After that we came back to the house where our lutefisk and lefse dinner was ready. Lutefisk is the Scandinavian delicacy that folks in Minnesota joke about. The lutefisk came in huge slabs, solid as a rock. It had to be soaked for three days before Christmas, then boiled. Now it comes frozen in tidy packages. However, it still retains its characteristic, unmistakable fishy fragrance. We also had lefse – a torilla-like bread made from potatoes – and sunbackle, a little pastry filled with dates and nuts. Quite delicious. Grandfather would make a beautiful speech. Everyone would be very quiet as he spoke. Then we'd go into the living room to open presents around the tree. It had real was candles in metal holders that attached to the tree branches. After the gifts were distributed and opened, the candles were blown out. The children would have to go to bed to wait to see what Santa Claus would bring on Christmas morning.

    My mother told me this story about one of her Christmases as a young girl. She was six years old and had never owned a doll. That Christmas the Lutheran Church was going to give out dolls and toys to the children. Her parents bundled her up and they drove the horse and buggy all the way into town from their farm. My mother was so excited. She could visualize her new doll and feel it in her arms. She had made a special place for the doll to sleep in her bed. But when they arrived, there were no more dolls left. All the way back home to the farm my mother felt so sad. On Christmas morning, though, she opened her eyes and saw a doll sitting at the foot of her bed. It was so beautiful and finely dressed that she could hardly believe the doll was real. She held it in her arms – her first doll. Her father had stayed up all night carving the doll out of wood while her mother sewed the doll's dress using her own clothes and cut her own hair to us for the doll's hair.

    Chapter 3 – Childhood

    I got myself born into a wonderful family with interesting people and into a wide-open space where I could roam and explore and feel free. I needed that. I like open spaces. I think the people who raised me were glad I had open spaces to run and wander in and that I had horses to race and cows to care for. I love doing things and there's always something to do on a farm. I also love being with people and find others fascinating. Of course, I have strong opinions about others and clearly I wasn't timid about acting on them.

    Hmmmm, I wonder if in today's terms my behavior would be called acting out. Or maybe I would have diagnosed with attention deficit syndrome!

    Reputation – Galoshes

    I had a reputation that I worked hard for. We attended a small Episcopalian church in town. On a particularly cold snowy Sunday when the pastor had left his galoshes outside, I got my firend Ruth to help me fill them with water.

    Vet-reading

    Aunt Anna, my dad's sister who was a teacher, taught me to read and write before I went to school. She loved to read and would wash the dishes with a book propped up at the sink. She gave me books. My dad treated all the animals and had lots of veterinary books. I read them and learned about the birds and bees that way. I really wanted to be a surgeon and to operate. I used to cut open everything I could get my hands on. I'd catch snakes and beetles then take them apart – all kinds of things. I wanted to know what made them tick.

    Hair

    Mother used a wire brush to comb my long hair so tight that whatever expression I started the day with I kept all day. She put two braids on top and two below and fastened them together. For me braids were better than when she'd put rags in my hair to give me curls. That was awful. I put up with braids. I wanted to chop off my hair like the boys but my dad said he'd keep me in the basement until it grew back. I believed him so I didn't cut it.

    6 year birthday party

    My sixth birthday was coming. Mother told me, "You're going to have a birthday party just like the other girls with ice cream and angel food cake." Later, she always made me an angel food cake with thirteen egg whites for my birhday and would send it to me no matter where I was.
    I said I didn't want a party with the girls and didn't want ribbons in my hair and my hair tied up with rags the night before. I didn't want to get dressed up. But no matter, I was going to have a party. I wasn't at all happy with that so I went and gathered lots of garter snakes and put them in a bucket in the garden. And I found an ax. Thie girls arrived, all dress up and pretty. They brought me presents. I told them to come and see something real unusual. They watched as I kicked over the bucket and chopped up the snakes. The girls all ran away screaming and went home. My mother was so upset. This was a terrible thing to do. She gave back presents. I didn't want the presents anyway. They were just silly girly things.

    Dolls

    I had no time for dolls. Never liked them and never played with dolls except for one doll – Sarah, a rag doll. That was the only one I liked. After my dad bought me boxing gloves, I didn't play with girls anymore. I played with the boys. They'd punch me but I never complained. I got a couple of black eyes. My father figured he needed to teach me how to box to take care of myself. He'd invite the boys over and put the boxing gloves on my hands and had me pound away at them.

    Mr. Coe

    Mr. Coe was my third grade teacher. I must have decided it was my mission to make his life miserable. I invented a song that I taught others: "Mr. Coe stubbed his big toe. All the kids went ho, ho, ho!"
    He was always helping out a girl who sat near me. She was very pretty and had lots of curly hair. I had long straight hair that I wore in braids on either side of my head like curved ram's horns. When he bent over her desk, his pants bagged out. I didn't like baggy pants. I had spotted a huge red ant hill on the church property. One day I collected some red ants and brought them to school. That day when Mr. Coe bent over the curly haired girl's desk, I poured the ants into his pants pocket. Then I got up, wet for my coat and walked home. My mother saw me coming up the road. She came to the door and said, "Aileen, Aileen. What have you done now?"
    Of course, I was suspended from school for several days for that one. My delight in my prank was sharply diminished by the fact that for all those days at home my mother put me to work. We had a hardwood floor in the kitchen and she made me scrub it with lye. That took up almost the whole time I was out of school.

    Run away

    Once when I was eight and had done something particularly bad, I ran away from home. I packed some food, a blanket and a pillow. My plan was to hide out in the cornfield all night. A few hours went by out there in the cornfield. I heard my parents calling me. Finally I decided to go visit a neighbor, Mr. Miller, who lived near the river. I went to his house and that's where my parents found me. (DID he tell them?)

    Brother to gypsies

    It was my job to care for my baby brother who was nine years younger. His problem (other than that he had me as his sister) was that he cried a lot. He also had exzema which made him a very fussy baby and I got tired of taking care of him. One day when I was pulling him in a wagon trying to distract him, I saw a group of Gypsies. They came every summer and camped a quarter of a mile from the farm. I had heard that they would take children, so I decided to give my yelling, squalling brother to the Gypsies. I was heading across the field, but before I reached them, my dad spotted me and asked where I was going with Johnny. "I'm goin to give him to the Gypsies because all he does is scream," I told him. My father was furious with me. I got my usual castor oil treatment.

    Castor Oil

    I don't remember ever being hit or spanked by either parent. But when I intentionally did things I shouldn't have, I'd get castor oil as a punishment – one tablespoonful if I didn't resist, two if I did. So I just opened my mouth and swallowed it. Later I thanked my folks. I told them that due to the castor oil I never had constipation problems my whole life.

    I always wondered about the connection between castor oil, misbehavior and intestines. Perhaps the idea was to flush out the bad behavior. Or maybe it was a way to control me for a while. I couln't get into any more mischief at least until I had gone to the bathroom and spent a while on the throne, as we called it.

    New bull

    My father had purchased a new bull. The bet came out to put a copper ring in the bull's nose, but they couldn't find the copper ring. Of course they couldn't find it. I was wearing it. I saw it and slipped it on my arm that morning and went off to school. I didn't have much jewelry. I thought it was pretty. It was my first bracelet. The vet had to drive all the way back the next day. My father said, "I wonder if they have one that will fit your nose. Then at least when I tie you up to a post, I'll know what you're doing."

    Potato bugs

    We grew a lot of potatoes in the garden. My parents assigned me the job of picking bugs off the potato plants. We didn't use pesticides back then so the bugs had to be gotten rid of by hand. I used a long fork to hit the plants and make the bugs fall into a big pan. I had to scrabble through the potato vines and deal with the creepy bugs that sometimes ended up on my arms and legs. I thought it was disgusting and unfair that I had to do this task. As I watched the bugs plunk into the pan and crawl around, I came up with a plan. First, I short-sheeted my parents' bed and then dumped the pan of potato bugs into their bed. They were so mad. I got two tablespoons of castor oil poured into me for that.

    Froggies

    It wasn't that I was a bad kid. It's just that life would get too quiet. I could always figure out something to do to liven things up like putting frogs in Miss Munkabe's desk. She was the teacher in charged of morning assembly and had this fixed routine. Every morning she opened her top desk drawer, pulled out her white hankie, shook it and delicately patted her mouth. After that ritual she would speak to the assembly. One morning she opened the drawer and out jumped a dozen froggies.

    Car

    I never lacked things to do to create mischief, but I didn't act out of meanness. I think I was just observant and really inventive. My Dad had purchased a nice new car. I carefully watched to see how he shifted and drove the car. Everyday he came home from work for lunch, then he took a nap on the couch. The car was just sitting there so I decided to take the kids for a ride in it. I put my brother and sister in the front seat and started the car. I drove it around the farm, then pulled up in front of the house and honked.
    Dad came flying out and started chasing me. I jumped out of the car and ran across the field to my grandmother's house a half-mile away. Grandma Ekstrom saw me coming. "What did you do now?" she asked as I ran in the back door. "Quick. Go hide under the bed."
    Dad drove up in the car and looked around the house. He cound't find me. My grandmother didn't say anything. But I lost on that one because the circus came to town and as my punishment I wasn't allowed to go.

    Horse

    When I was about seven or eight, my dad bought a horse for me. It was a Pinto. We called them Indian ponies. I took care of it. I had a saddle, but I like riding bareback better. I was a farm girl. I rode my pony all over, even into town. Everyone rode their hourses around town. It was a great way to get into town. My pony's name was Choppy – he had a terrible gait, but he could jump. I'd put trees down and built up a barrier. I'd poke him in the ribs and he'd run and jump. I had him for about six years. We sold him when I was twelve or thirteen. The horse I got then wasn't a purebred. He was different shades of tan like a palomino.
    I enjoyed dressing like a cowboy with the hat and the works – chaps, boots, vest, jacket. My dad would get me whatever I wanted in that line. Not many of my friends had horses nor did my sister who was four years younger. As far as I was concernd, she didn't do anything. She was "a lady." I wasn't.

    Coveralls

    I wore coveralls all the time. I wouldn't wear shoes to school, only boots – lace-up work boots. I never dressed up except on Sundays and that was because my mother said the Lord would be looking straight at me.
    No one who knows my enjoyment of fashion and clothes today would ever believe I was such a tomboy. I remember once when I did dress up, my dad said, "Oh, that's nice. you do look like a young lady."

    Milk truck

    All farm kids got their licenses early. I got mine at age ten for ten cents so I could drive the milk truck into town. When I drove the truck we had to put blocks of wood on the peddles for me to reach them.

    Herding cattle

    In the summertime we had to move the cattle to another grazing ground. When I was herding cattle I had all sorts of time to myself. I could dream, think about my future, watch the bugs in the grass and read. We didn't have much to read. The magazine we got on the farm was The Farmer's Digest – which used to be The Country Gentleman. I read every page of that and whatever other magazine people would give me. I also borrowed books from our tiny public library. I read lots of books.

    I loved herding the cows. I'd move them and they'd graze a while. The horse would lie down. There weren't any fences so I had to keep them in sight. Because the land was open, sometimes as I was moving the cattle across the land, a cow would go running off and I had to chase after her to round her up. I had to move them every day bring them back in the evening to the corrral which was half mile from the house. Old Shep, our farm dog, would help get the cows into the corral and help my dad, mother and the hired hand get the cows into their stall for milking. Our dary cows were milked by hand. Whe it was raining we didn't take them out to graze. I was a good job and I liked it.

    Another big job I did on the farm was working with the hay stacker at harvest time. First the hay is cut. Then the hay stacker comes along pulled by two horses. Long metal rakes push the hay into the forks. I had to sit on the wooden backboard where the forks were to drive the team and keep them moving straight. When the team moved forward, that lifted up the forks and brought the hay over the top of the stack. Well, there were huge ropes all around and I was so close to the action that I got a scar on my hip from the rope burn. I told my Dad, "Hey, I'm branded just like the cattle."

    Wafers

    I was baptized and confirmed as an Episcopalian. My grandmother was a staunch Episcopalian. My mother, a Luthern, became an Episcopalian when she married my dad. When I was about twelve, I started getting serious with myself. I wondered why I was always in trouble and pulling these pranks that upset people so much. I was a member of the church choir and knew where the communion wafers were kept. I decided to eat them all. I had thought about this for a long time. If I ate a lot of them, I reasoned, maybe I'd get real holy and be cured of being so mischievous. I conviced Ruth Weber to go along with me. We had choir practice the night before and it's when Ruth and I snuck away from the choir and got the wafers from the cabinet where they were kept. We took out the box and opened it up. We started with a few and kept on going until we devoured all the wafers in the box. They were awfully dry.
    "do you feel holy yet? Ruth asked
    "I don't know," I answered. "How is holy supposed to feel?" I didn't realize that the wafers had to be blessed first.
    We put the empty box back.
    At the service the next day, the deacon discovered there were no wafers for communion. He had to go across the street and get regular bread from Mrs. Elliot and cut it into cubes so we could have communion that morning.
    It didn't take them long to figure out who did it. We told them we ate them up because we thought we'd get holy and be good.

    Barn dances

    I played with the boys and had boy friends, but I didn't date. We didn't have proms or special dances at school. We did go to barn dances, though, and I did lots of dancing. When I was in my teens, I was friends with the deputy sheriff's daughter. He was the chaperone at the barn dances. By then I must have gotten interested in curls. One Sunday I burned my tongue testing the curling iron trying to curl my hair. We were supposed to sing that Sunday in front of everyone. I told my mom I couldn't go. My tongue was hanging out and I couln't close my mouth. My mother said, "Oh, the Lord won't mind if your tongue is out as long as you're in church. Besides, you never close your mouth anyway, so it won't matter."

    Graduate early

    As I mentioned, my teacher aunt Anna taught me to read and write before I started school so when I was in the first grade I did part of the material from the second grade. I could also do multiplication tables, addition and subtraction before first grade. In fourth grade I was taught by a cousin of mine. That was horrible. By the time I got to high school, they offered extra advanced subjects to take so I got through high school in three years. So I graduated at age sixteen in a class that wasn't mine. I always thought to myself, I'm going to get out of this place. The wide open world beyond my familiar open spaces was calling to me.

    Chapter 4 – China

    (See Attached documents for original version)

    All of my life, I seemed to be drawn to "life things" – that peeked my curiosity and love of adventure, that seems to be the main force in my life.
    For many years I've been a member of St. Paul League of Women Voters and my quest for answers especially in the political world that was all around us and to better understand the whys, or where it was all leading and how it effects the human race.
    So when I received all info on this trip to China, I was truly excited. The 1st meeting with others also wanting to learn more, however had applied for trip had a great meeting in Mpls. League quarters.
    Another pleasant part was the fellow travels were an interesting group of various people that I felf this indeed was a great adventture to share.
    We assembled together in San Fransisco and left on a flight to tokyo on April 15. On April 16 in the evening we arrived in Tokyo for a night stay at Narita Nikko. We stayed there on the 12th floor overnite. However we had our introduction to an earth quake. In fact Dorothy my roomate and I almost fell out of bed. We decided this must be a signal of an extiting trip. Of course, we were ready to get on the bus – When I had left my faithful hot water bottle – A strange factor she indulged in for many years – was upstairs – Anyway the bus waited while I trotted back to retrieve my comfort hot water bottle – On the bus trip to the airplane – I decided to name the hot water bottle "Andy". This did vive a certain status to it, at least I thought so. After someone also asked "Is Andy here???" On April 17 we left Tokyo at 10 AM on JAH flight #81 arriving at Bejing at 13:15 on April 18.
    I was very surprised about the physical care given by JAH. We had all shapes and sizes of soft pillows, hot wash cloths automated

    Died:
    Memorial Service: Beaver Lake Lutheran Church, Maplewood, Minnesota Friday December 19, 2008
    Interment: Union Cemetery Maplewood, Minnesota

    Aileen married MEYERS Everett (Bud) in 1942, and was divorced in 1955. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

    Children:
    1. 30. Living  Descendancy chart to this point

    Aileen married FRITSCH Joeseph William in 1955. Joeseph was born in 1909 in Ste Gaellen, Switzerland; died on 06 Aug 1989 in St. Paul, Ramsey Co., MN. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

    Children:
    1. 31. Living  Descendancy chart to this point
    2. 32. Living  Descendancy chart to this point

  9. 16.  EKSTROM Edna Karin Descendancy chart to this point (5.John2, 1.Pehr1) was born on 28 May 1916; died on 11 Feb 1918 in Union Cemetery, Newport Twp., Towner, ND.

  10. 17.  EKSTROM Ruth Mamie Descendancy chart to this point (5.John2, 1.Pehr1) was born on 15 May 1919 in Towner, Mchenry Co., ND; died on 09 May 2003 in Mahtomedi, Washington Co., MN.

    Notes:

    SSN: 472-30-4152

    Ruth was born at home. Episcapalien

    Ruth lived at 167 North McGregor, Mahtomedi, MN for about the last 50
    years of her life.

    Education: Graduated from Towner, ND High School in 1937. She was
    involved in Band in High School.
    Ruth had training in Milling machines, Rockwell hardness, Tukon, Band
    saw.

    Ruth worked for Federal Catridge in New Brighton, MN from May 1966
    through April 1970 where she supervised and assisted lab techs. Her
    final salery was $3.57/hr.

    Ruth worked at Merrill Abbot & Donahoaur from 1957 to 1965 as a
    Practical Nurse. She provided complete home nursing care - including
    any mediation or treatment necessary for patients. She made $2.50/hr.

    Ruth worked at Twin Cities Arsenal from 1952 to 1956 as a Lab Tech
    II. Responsibilities included Titrations, Preparation & reading of
    grain size and grain configuration of metal. Rockwell Hardness
    testing Mercurons Nitrate test. Viscosity of mouth Varnish and J. D.
    Lacquer. Templex test of Annial temperatures. Ruth made $.88/hr in
    1952.

    Hobbies included Womens golf league, mixed doubles bowling, breading
    Samoyeds.

    August 24, 1954 Udal and Ruth purchased property at "Lots thirteen
    (13) and fourteen (14), except the westerly ten (10) feet of said lot
    fourteen (14), block three (3), third addition to Forest Heights,
    according to the plat thereof on file and of record in the office of
    Register of Deeds in and for Washington County, Minnesota," for the
    cost of $5000.00.

    Read at her funeral by her grandson Brian Freeman:

    To me Grandma was my second mother. She taught me about life,
    politics, manners, people, writing, golf, society, you name it. She
    helped me with school projects and personal issues. She kept me
    company when I was feeling down or lonely. When I was a child she was
    not only my Grandmother, she was usually me best friend. That
    friendship continued until last week.

    Many things that I did in my life, I did to the motivation of hearing
    her tell me how proud she was of me. We found that the two of us
    could talk on a level that we often couldn't do with others. Although
    Grandma had the ability to ruffle the feathers of other on certain
    issues, we found a way to get beyond that and "solve the world's
    problems," as she would say.

    My memories with her goes well beyond holiday visits. I spent
    uncountable hours at her house just visiting or helping out with
    projects. Most of my memories lies within her house and yard as we
    touched on all of the topics of the day.

    I am happy about every moment I've spent with her even the occasional
    disagreements which I think we both learned from. My last memory of
    her today will be remembering all of the other good times we've had.


    Memories from Ruth Maimie Ekstrom

    Memories – Karen you asked for these.
    I warned you there would be times they would be hardly legible but you said go ahead.

    I remember my grandmother Ekstrom sitting in the “corner” of the kitchen. With the wood stove on one side and a table with many canaryies (sp) birds on a table beside her. She had what I would call a many layered cage and quite a few birds. She would sit and whittle and talk to them and they would respond. I was intrigued. They only responded to her voice. Not mine or any one else.

    My grandfather was a gentle sort of remote figure. But although he may not have responded to the to her grand children, he did respond to me. My first remembrance of my grand parents home was warmth and Love. Lots of it.

    They lived next door – one house removed.
    Their house sm. house our house
    All on one whole lot
    In back – behind grandfathers house was the horse barn. Behind our house was the cow barn and chickens. Horses and cows were never kept in the same barn. Horses and chickens were separate but in the same building. The horses were for draying (hauling) your [supplies].

    (1) Remember
    Grandmother Ekstrom
    Life – Birds – Arvid – Death
    (2) The days of haying –
    The houses
    The sand paint for water
    The fun of controlling the placing of the hay on the stack by the speed etc of the stacker team.
    First driving – Model T across hay (practice) land.
    (3) My father took me everywhere possible with him. His campaigne (sic) for sheriff. His trip to Mr. (Fostor) to look after my mothers parents farm problems. Mr. Weker (Lawyer) and friend traveled with us (by train). I was about four years old. I was left with an older couple called Mr. & Mrs. Hanson while dad & Mr. Weker went out to the farm. This is still embarrassing to tell: Noone told me where the bathroom was and I was too embarrassed to ask these people I had just met and was left with. I suffered as long as I could and then went into some woods near by and relieved myself. What ever happened after that I cannot recall tho (sic) I have really tried. The Hansons spoke very little English and what they said to friends and my father was in Norwegian and I could not understand. Some how I was told where the “out house” was and I was scared to death of it (because all it had was two large holes and is was high). I was sure I would fall in. But I must have been very timid because I never told anyone my feelings about “anything”. My father was my “rock.” He always was kind of gentle and protective. My earliest memory is being picked up by him from a couch at my grandma and grandpa Ekstroms house on a Christmas eve (we always spent Christmas eve at this house, Thanksgiving at Aunt Anna and uncle Ervin Cook’s farm house, Christmas day at ours), but I digress. I had fallen asleep and when it was time to go home my father picked me up. Someone said “look she’s smiling” and daddy said, “She always wakes up smiling.” Funny how children are impressed with praise and I think it was because my father had pride in me that it meant so much. Also, I do not recall my mother “ever” praising me. Maybe she did but somehow she took care of my needs (physical) very well, I am sure. I was kept clean and healthy. As my father once said “she was a good woman.”

    I was born approx nine mos. After my sister Edna died (at about 1 1/2 or 2) I was the third girl. I somehow (later) sort of got the feeling I was a “gender” disappointment to my mother. This is a sort of (paradox).

    My father, being the only son of an only son of an only son – etc. of the Ekstrom name and line. My father wanted a son to carry on the family name (a proud name) and so there would be more pregnancies until a son was born. Some how I got the feeling that sex for my mother was for procreation only – not a pleasurable act. ie: That’s why I got the impression from her.

    But my father never felt that way. He really hurt a great deal when Edna died (he loved children) and I probably helped fill an empty place in his heart. I was what one might say “a daddy’s girl.” I was a blue eyed blonde happy baby and I enjoyed a very happy young life.

    At pre-school age (maybe 4) I was chosen to be the bride in a presentation at school called “Tom Thumbs Wedding.” My groom was Ormiston Kermott, the dentist son. If you do no know, Tom Thumb was a famous midget in the circus world. (There are pictures of us among my photos). Ormiston (what a name) died while attending the U. He had a blister on his heel. It led to blood poisoning and killed him. (Remember b/4 penicillin and also remember young people feel they are invincible and are careless of their health.)

    My next years of “Lime-light” are my years of competing in what was called declamation contests. I really did quite well. Memorized and had training from Mrs. on presenting my reading.

    I won awards including a gold medal. I am enclosing and the prize I gave.

    I remember the warm, clean smell of the cow barn in the winter time, when the cows were brought in from the pasture and lived near us (in the same block).






    |-------------------|-------------------------|
    | House barns | Sow barns |
    | Chickens | Silo & feed area |
    |-------------------|-------------------------|
    Our house | Grandfather’s | sm | our house | Block of space
    | house | house | milk house |
    | | our old | indoor |
    | | one | plumbing |
    |-------------------|----------|---------------|

    There were always (barn) cats. They were sort of wild, except for one, and lived warm & snug among the cows, had their litters hidden away in the haymow (but I found them and loved them,) and they kept the mice down and received warm, fresh cows milk morning and night.

    My father was meticulous (very clean) about the hired hands who helped with the milking, that they washed the cow teats (tits to you) and their hands before milking. My parents were Scandinavian and very clean people. Only now do I realize how natural this was for them.

    Today it would be controlled or demanded by someone. To them it was simply the way one did things. My father was a self taught vet. He vaccinated, treated many animals beside his own. If I say self-taught, I may be wrong. His family was very intelligent and had formal education beyond the usual (norm.) His father, Grandpa Ekstrom came from a wealthy family in Sweden. He ran away as a young lad (what age is uncertain – at least in his terms) and hid on board a ship was accepted as a cabin boy. His family tried to have him returned to them but was not successful. He stayed at sea and worked his way up to Captain of his own sailing vessell (sp) ship. There is a time lapse I cannot account for. Maybe cousin Roy Cook in Seattle may help you. He has a genealogy of the Ekstrom family. His wife’s name is Sophia.

    However, my father was very intelligent and adaptable to his enprisonment.

    Grandfather Ekstrom at one time when he was married and had a family of 3 girls and 1 boy (my father) an other male child Verner, had died in infancy. He was a banker in, I think, Litchfield, MN. At that time banks were personal businesses. He and two other partners owned the bank thru economics, poor loans, extended credit or whatever, the bank failed. The two partners pulled everything they could out of it but my grandfather felt an obligation to his depositors and put everything on the “block” except his furniture and personal possessions.

    My father, who had homesteaded in North Dakota brought them, his parents and three sisters to Dakota (Towner) and built them a house. His mother grandma Ekstrom and her daughters became seamstresses. They had always done fine “needle work” and they now put it to use.

    They hand made every fine linen you could imagine. Cloths, wedding gowns, table linens, trousseau (sp) linens, baby Christmas gowns, table linens, napkins. This was not simple embroidering, but “cut” work or “open” work, where a solid satin (I think) stitch was done over & over. I was too young to appreciate what they were doing and what my cousins, particularly, Hattie Cook, was forever doing. They were never without hand-work in their hands.

    My grandfather became a “dray man”. He with his team of horses and dray wagon on the wheels in summer & sleigh in winter hauled freight from the Depot to the merchants of the town. He accepted what was handed him and gained the love and respect of the town businessmen. He was “Dad” to them and they gave him a gold watch on his retirement with the inscription “To Dad from the Boys”. He was a great wonderful person.

    My own relationship with him was a warm, safe, place. Because of his loss of hearing and bad eye sight (he had a cataract operation before anesthesia was invented) they gave him whiskey & tied him down, he only had it done once – could not face it again. He loved to read but had to use a large strong magnifying glass. He took & read a daily paper and had in the past accumulated a bit of a library.

    Special Occasions:

    (a) Death of Grandma Ekstrom – laid out in parlor of their house. Took Carol (neighbor) Chadderton to see her. First death I had experienced.
    (b) Presentation of bouquet of roses to Crown Prince & Princess of Sweden – on rear platform of train. Betty Sommerdorf represented the Germans (her father owned the general merchentile store) and I represented the Swedes. We both wore link (satin? rayon? shiny material) like dresses with panties to match. About 4 yrs old I think – or less. The bouquet was as large as I was and my father held me up to present them. The picture that was taken shows me standing on a chair holding dahlias from mothers garden. We each (Betty & I) received a gold bracelet. I am wearing it in the picture. I just recently got I back from Aileen after I pointed out it was mine in the above mentioned picture. The inscription on the inside had been scratched out.
    (c) Tom Thumbs wedding – Ormiston Kermott (dentists son).
    (d) Declamation contests
    Mrs. Kinder, wife of school principal coached me. Still have one gold medal.
    (e) Played 1st trumpet in band. Was suppose to play solo “Little Town of Bethlehem” at church xmas program. Totally “froze” – couldn’t play a note! Mother was embarrassed & angry. Daddy felt so very sorry for me and comforted me.
    (f) My first dog. The butchers wife gave me a Pekinese puppy. Her purebred female was unfortunately mated to a undesirable male. I was thrilled and loved her (my puppy) dearly. But one day when I came home from school for lunch I could hear crying in the basement and the door was locked. Mother wouldn’t let me go to her. She said the dog was sick but she was taking care of it. When I came home after school she said it had died and she had buried it. I found out she had cloraphormed (sp) it and her puppies. I didn’t even know she was pregnant. When I told her I knew she had killed them she didn’t deny it and was furious at the neighbor who had told me. I was crushed.


    These are real names.
    I am trying to be completely honest with you. I don’t think many parents do. It is different to separate ones feelings.

    The small form stopped struggling and became still. Like a sigh, Edna ceased her struggle for air and relaxed. It was over. Mrs. Shipman, the nurse, turned to John and shook her head. He buried his head in his hands and sobbed.
    He cradled the baby and rocked her. Talking to her and soothing her as if she was still with them.
    She in now in God’s hands. No she is still in mine.
    The blond, blue eyed baby lay limp but still warm to the touch. He could not put her down.
    At 2 1/2 she could walk and her dearest treasure was “a new pair of shoes”. She had hugged them to her and repeated over & over “new shoes, my new shoes!”
    They took her from him gently and his sister (Mamie) put her arm around him and lead [sic] him off.
    The mother & nurse bathed and dressed the baby and prepared her for burial. In those days there was not a funeral parlor and embalming was not done. The family took care of it’s own.
    John came in and put the “new shoes” in her arms.
    She was buried from the home.
    John was inconsolable. His sisters rallied around him and gave what support they could.
    A judge, Judge Christianson, a friend of John’s knew of Nettie’s love of flowers particularly dahlias and as a new strain of light pink had just been developed he gave it the name “Edna Karin” in memory of (my sister) the baby.
    Approx 2 1/2 yrs later another blond, blue eyed baby was born to John & Nettie. Atho [sic] she could not replace Edna, she did fill a loving need.
    She was a happy cheerful child and her father adored her. He took her everywhere possible with him.
    However there was an older child. Born 2 yrs before Edna. She was a somber quick baby and when the tragedy of Edna’s illness (pneumonia) and death overwhelmed her parents I’m sure she felt a bit left out. Then the new baby. All smiles and watched over very carefully so nothing happened to her.
    This new baby seemed to live a charmed life. She was blond, blue eyed, chubby and a totally happy smiling person.
    John was enchanted by her and his family, who lived next door were thrilled to see him so happy again. And the bond between father & daughter grew every day.
    John was well liked & respected in the community. He was kind and gentle and giving he also had great manners. He was hansom, and people responded to him. He was without guile and was trustworthy. His ward could always be depended upon.
    He was brought up a “gentleman” but never let necessary hard labor demean him. His manners were impeccable. It was inate (sp). (totally natural)
    My father (John) led a very diversified life. He was an only son after his brother Verner died in infancy, and being an only son meant a great deal to the Ekstrom family. There had been only one male to carry the name for several generations. And today there is only one – John Verner (my brothers grand son) to carry it on (and possess the “Loving Cup”) a family heirloom handed down to only sons for at least 6 generations.

    Vestibule of Train

    I have a desire to let you all know who I am and have been.
    I don’t think it is an ego trip. I do feel there isn’t enough time or availability to tell you all I would like you to know and I am overwhelmed with trying to give you an unbiased picture. But I know it is almost impossible to be objective.
    And I have no way of knowing how you will interpret what I tell you. Boy I wish I could.

    Ruth married SMITH Udal Sprague on 13 Jan 1939 in St. Paul, Ramsey Co., MN. Udal (son of SMITH Sprague W. and SMITH Hazel) was born on 02 Oct 1911 in St. Paul, Ramsey Co., MN; died on 04 Jun 1984 in St. Paul, Ramsey Co., MN. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

    Children:
    1. 33. Living  Descendancy chart to this point
    2. 34. Living  Descendancy chart to this point

  11. 18.  EKSTROM John Verner Descendancy chart to this point (5.John2, 1.Pehr1) was born on 01 Jul 1923 in Towner, Mchenry Co., ND; died about 1995 in Imperial Beach, San Diego Co., CA.

    Notes:

    Last address was 275 Dorrax Ave., Imperial Beach, CA.

    Died:
    BET 1994 AND 1996
    last address was P.O. Box 1256, Imperial Beach, San diego, CA 92032

    Family/Spouse: Millie. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

    Children:
    1. 35. EKSTROM John  Descendancy chart to this point

    Family/Spouse: Yvonne. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]


  12. 19.  HERMANSON John Robert Descendancy chart to this point (6.Mamie2, 1.Pehr1)

    Notes:

    Never married. He died in his 30's.


  13. 20.  HERMANSON Esther Louise Descendancy chart to this point (6.Mamie2, 1.Pehr1) was born on 30 Jul 1909.

    Notes:

    Never married. Died in her 40's.



Generation: 4

  1. 21.  Living Descendancy chart to this point (11.Hattie3, 4.Anna2, 1.Pehr1)

    Living married Living [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

    Children:
    1. 36. Living  Descendancy chart to this point
    2. 37. Living  Descendancy chart to this point

  2. 22.  Living Descendancy chart to this point (11.Hattie3, 4.Anna2, 1.Pehr1)

    Living married Living [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]


  3. 23.  COOK Beverly Ann Descendancy chart to this point (12.Lytle3, 4.Anna2, 1.Pehr1) was born on 26 Aug 1948 in Minot, Ward Co., ND; died on 30 Jul 2005 in Bangor, ME.

    Notes:

    Beverly has her masters degree in Nursing Education.

    Died:
    Died in a bike accident.
    Buried: Union Cemetery, Towner, ND.

    Beverly married Living [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

    Children:
    1. 38. Living  Descendancy chart to this point
    2. 39. Living  Descendancy chart to this point

  4. 24.  Living Descendancy chart to this point (12.Lytle3, 4.Anna2, 1.Pehr1)

    Family/Spouse: Living. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

    Children:
    1. 40. Living  Descendancy chart to this point
    2. 41. Living  Descendancy chart to this point
    3. 42. Living  Descendancy chart to this point

  5. 25.  COOK Irvin Lytle Descendancy chart to this point (12.Lytle3, 4.Anna2, 1.Pehr1) was born on 27 Aug 1952 in Towner, Mchenry Co., ND; died on 30 Mar 1975 in Towner, Mchenry Co., ND.

    Notes:

    Irvin died of accidental electrocution at the age of 21.


  6. 26.  Living Descendancy chart to this point (12.Lytle3, 4.Anna2, 1.Pehr1)

    Living married Living [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

    Children:
    1. 43. Living  Descendancy chart to this point
    2. 44. Living  Descendancy chart to this point
    3. 45. Living  Descendancy chart to this point

  7. 27.  Living Descendancy chart to this point (13.LeRoy3, 4.Anna2, 1.Pehr1)

    Family/Spouse: Living. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

    Children:
    1. 46. Living  Descendancy chart to this point
    2. 47. Living  Descendancy chart to this point

  8. 28.  Living Descendancy chart to this point (13.LeRoy3, 4.Anna2, 1.Pehr1)

    Living married Living [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

    Children:
    1. 48. Living  Descendancy chart to this point
    2. 49. Living  Descendancy chart to this point

  9. 29.  Living Descendancy chart to this point (14.Per3, 4.Anna2, 1.Pehr1)

    Living married Living [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

    Children:
    1. 50. COOK Brian Patrick  Descendancy chart to this point was born on 11 Apr 1973 in Ak; died on 19 Feb 1982 in Ak.
    2. 51. Living  Descendancy chart to this point
    3. 52. Living  Descendancy chart to this point
    4. 53. Living  Descendancy chart to this point

  10. 30.  Living Descendancy chart to this point (15.Aileen3, 5.John2, 1.Pehr1)

    Living married Living [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

    Children:
    1. 54. Living  Descendancy chart to this point

  11. 31.  Living Descendancy chart to this point (15.Aileen3, 5.John2, 1.Pehr1)

    Living married Living [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

    Children:
    1. 55. Living  Descendancy chart to this point

  12. 32.  Living Descendancy chart to this point (15.Aileen3, 5.John2, 1.Pehr1)

    Living married Living [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

    Children:
    1. 56. Living  Descendancy chart to this point
    2. 57. Living  Descendancy chart to this point
    3. 58. Living  Descendancy chart to this point

  13. 33.  Living Descendancy chart to this point (17.Ruth3, 5.John2, 1.Pehr1)

    Living married Living [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

    Children:
    1. 59. Living  Descendancy chart to this point
    2. 60. Living  Descendancy chart to this point

    Living married Living [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]


  14. 34.  Living Descendancy chart to this point (17.Ruth3, 5.John2, 1.Pehr1)

    Living married Living [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

    Children:
    1. 61. Living  Descendancy chart to this point
    2. 62. Living  Descendancy chart to this point

    Living married Living [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]


  15. 35.  EKSTROM John Descendancy chart to this point (18.John3, 5.John2, 1.Pehr1)

    Notes:

    Married twice
    had 1 son (Jacob) from second wife

    Family/Spouse: Trish. [Group Sheet] [Family Chart]

    Children:
    1. 63. EKSTROM Jacob  Descendancy chart to this point